15 February 2013

About the Idea of Monosexual Privilege and the Monosexual Privilege Checklist

Some context on this: the idea of monosexual privilege has been a hotly debate subject among bisexual people on tumblr. This post came on the tail end of a loooong debate involving a lot of people and a lot of different views. For more background: read these posts by Shiri Eisner, this post by pareia, and these discussions on tumblr.

This is the post as it appeared on my tumblr on Jan. 26, 2013.

I’m adressing this post to the people I argued with yesterday over the concept of monosexual privilege and in particular to Shiri Eisner, as the creator of the monosexual privilege checklist. It is based on yesterday’s discussion and today’s clarification from Shiri Eisner on the intent behind the checklist.

I would like to make it clear that I write this as a bisexual woman who is very interested in bisexual politics and devotes a lot of time to thinking and writing about it. My stake in this is that I would like to see bisexual politics that are revolutionary, that speak to our experience as bisexuals, that are well thought out and well reasoned and useful tools for bringing down the binaries – in short, I want the same as you. So please do not dismiss my arguments here as privilege-denial, or as internalized monosexism.

While you see two different axes of oppression, one straight-queer and one monosexual-bisexual, I (and others, but I can only speak for myself in this post) see only one straight-queer axis of oppression with different consequences for the different oppressed groups and a degree of horizontal hostility as a result of that.

In one of my many, many, many posts on the subject of monosexual privilege yesterday, I said the following:

So far, I have seen no examples of monosexual privilege that is generally available to gay people. Some of it is available to white middle-class cis gay people who conform to heteronormativity, some of it is available to gay people only in LGBT spaces. The former is an example of the privileged group extending privilege to a select few of the non-privileged as a reward for buying into their ideology, the latter does not count as it is a subspace separate from mainstream society.

This got buried in a wall of text and nobody responded to it so I’m putting it in its own post and bolding it. I will add that another category exists: rights that the gay community had to fight tooth and nail to have, which we don’t have yet because our problems haven’t been prioritized. I would argue that hard-won rights (especially those that are relatively recently acquired and only in a specific set of countries) have no place on a privilege checklist. If necessary, I am willing to go through the checklist point by point and show that each of them belongs in one of these categories.

Now I should add that I am well aware that monosexual privilege is not claimed to originate in the gay community. However. If you construct a group of people as a privileged group by virtue of sexuality, it has to make sense to talk about that group as privileged by virtue of their sexuality. If what you describe as monosexual privilege is not available to everyone you define as monosexual, even when taking the other axes of oppression into account, it’s time to look at who actually holds the privilege in question. In this case, I think it clearly is heterosexuals. The reason why those of us who criticize the idea of monosexual privilege focus so heavily on lesbians and gays in relation to this is twofold. 1) We all agree that heterosexuals hold the privileges listed and 2) it is when we apply the concept of monosexual privilege to gays and lesbians as subsets of the proposed monosexual group that we see how little sense it makes to talk about them as monosexuals.

The monosexual privilege checklist was accepted by many, including myself, without critical thought. It speaks of the unique problems faced by bisexuals and it was such an emotional experience to see it all in list form that I didn’t initially question the chosen template, or its implications.
Since then, I’ve seen a lot of criticism of how prolific the format of the privilege checklist has become, how it’s used on all forms of oppression without taking into account whether the form of oppression in question actually fits the original model. This has become widespread and many people now don’t realise that when you create a privilege checklist, you are implying an underlying axis of oppression with your non-privileged group on one end and everyone else at the other. The format of the privilege checklist cannot and should not be divorced from this political analysis of oppression, or it is meaningless.

Think of the first privilege checklist, the white privilege checklist. It was created to show white people how they are privileged in ways they rarely even think about. Behind it is an analysis of racial oppression that shows white people as privileged over all other racial demographics. This is true regardless of how various non-privileged racial groups are oppressed in different ways, or receive varying degrees of provisional access to the privileges described, because whiteness is monolithic. Because regardless of intersecting gender, class or sexuality oppressions, it makes sense to speak of a relatively uniform white experience. Because I, as a poor person, a woman, a bisexual, a person with a mental illness, living in a country with a vastly different racial history and social dynamic from the US, I can still read the white privilege checklist and have my mind blown by all of the privilege I never realised I had. It works because although whiteness is mostly never considered by white people, white people are still a group with clearly defined membership, even though it mostly becomes clear through definitions of who isn’t white.

This is not transferable to the idea of monosexual privilege. There is no monolithic group of monosexuals. It is not a concept except in our minds as bisexuals. Heterosexuals may see gays and lesbians as less threatening on some levels (as expertly pointed out by Kenji Yoshino in his essay The Epistemic Contract of Bisexual Erasure) but they do not experience straights and gays as one group. There is no cohesion there as there is with whiteness. The extent to which gays and straights have common interests in the suppression of bisexuality is still, as Yoshino describes it, a subconscious contract between two groups with different motives, investments and privileges. It is still a contract between one privileged group and a minority. Intersectionality doesn’t even begin to explain the complete lack of cohesion in this supposedly privileged group.

So here is my problem. If the unique situation of bisexuals does not fit the privilege-oppression framework in the sense of bisexuals being oppressed by monosexuals, and if this framework is not even necessary in order to describe and explain the unique experience of bisexuals or the interests of gays and lesbians in bi erasure, why should we use it? It’s faulty, flawed, oversimplifying and unnecessary. It brings far more harm than good. And to be honest, it feels appropriative to me.
I’m not saying the list should be completely chucked. With a few changes, it could be a list of consequences of bi erasure. A list of specific oppressions for bisexuals under heterosexism. Shining a light on bi specific oppressions is a good thing, a necessary thing. It does not need to be a privilege checklist to do that.

Here is what I suggest: we can talk about bisexual erasure and biphobia as a consequence of heterosexism and sometimes an expression of horizontal aggression. We can even talk about monosexism as a subset of heterosexism in which bisexuality is specifically targeted for the threat it represents to heteronormativity. But if we talk about monosexism among gays and lesbians we should make clear that we are talking about internalized shit and attempts to make an oppressed group look more palatable to the privileged group (homonormativity).

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